If you're an avid reader, your book list is either set to private on
goodreads, or perhaps you are in a book club filled with plenty of vino and reliable girlfriends. Maybe you've even read a self-help book in an attempt to save your relationship at one point... but realized that being the ONLY one reading it, didn't make sense, with you always acting as the messenger. If you know your special someone likes to read sometimes too, why wait until things get rocky to initiate reading a book with your boo?
From the sensual, to the save-our-relationship-self-help aisle, here are ten books you can read with your partner.
5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Whether you feel profoundly understood by your partner, or you think their behavior could use an overhaul, this book will encourage you and your partner to take a look into how you give and receive love. Hint: you normally give love in the way you receive it, but if you're speaking a different love language than your partner is, you may have to learn theirs, and vice versa. Your primary love language will be: quality time, acts of service, physical touch, gifts, or words of affirmation, and oftentimes, there's one in close second, serving as your secondary love language. Knowing what is most likely to inspire you or your partner to feel the love can make all of the difference.
Delusions of Gender by Cordelia Fine
Whether you'd like to contemplate your own gender identities, and feel more connected, or delve into what your future son or daughter may experience, this is a book worth picking up. You don't have to be in a same sex, or gender relationship to gain insight from how our modern society socializes children into believing the dichotomy of male and female behaviors. Neuroscience and humor help wash this read down.
Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy
If you're into long, steamy, romantic, cerebral love stories, this one will knock your socks off. Take turns reading excerpts aloud, or curl up in your bed and read in silent anticipation.
Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel
If you've been together for a while, and want to kink things up a notch (not a typo!) then leave it to sex educator and author Esther Perel to teach you how to keep it, or make it that much hotter, wherever you are with your S.O.
The Relationship Cure by John Gottman
Whether you need a cure or this read is pre-emptive to a trial you feel brewing, the relationship cure takes a cue from method acting, and exploring the bid for connection," backed up by longitudinal research studies that will validate the advice you seek.
The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm
If you'd like to talk about the nature of love with your boo, this will get the conversation started. Fromm's controversial way of looking at love could enlighten your relationship. He thinks that love is a choice, and that nobody falls in love, but rather, stands in it. More on that in the book!
The History Of Love by Nicole Krauss
It's the story of love and loss and the connection between the two. There are two narrators in the novel and they both take you on a journey of being lonely, taking refuge in one another, losing it all, and what's to come next. It's an emotional roller coaster, binded, and ready for you to leap into the pages of.
The Lover's Dictionary by David Levithan
If you're deep into the throes of passionate love, this book can help contextualize what you're feeling. It's written in a dictionary-layout, with words defined and descriptions granted, to make the ever-elusive feeling of love make at least a little more sense.
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
Do you have 10 weeks and a relationship that's just dragging along? If you're no longer loving your love life or lover, crack open "Getting The Love You Want," and be guided through exercises in mindfulness to reconnect with the love you once considered undeniable.
The Edible Woman by Margaret Atwood
The fiercely feminist story explores why you need, or don't need a significant other. If you fear you and your partner are enmeshed, this book can help you take a step back, and explore the perils of being too close, through the eyes of a fictional character you'll come to know and love.